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My new tattoo

Published September 13, 2017 by Bizzimummy

I just had to share this. I had this done early today. I absolutely love it. 

It’s on my upper back and for the symbolic meanings please google pentagram and all seeing eye. 


Stefs tattoo & body piercing  Bolton

I’m going to Blog On Icebreaker linky 

Published May 18, 2017 by Bizzimummy

This Sunday I will be travelling to Manchester to attend the Blog On Msi 2017 conference where I will be meeting lots of brands and lots of bloggers. So that people get to know a bit about me, I’m taking part in the icebreaker linky challenge.

Here are my answers!

• Share a recent picture of you (if you are an anonymous blog, a drawing is fine)

• Describe yourself in three words

Caring, friendly, fun


•How long have you been blogging and what made you start? 4 years and 1 month. I started when my daughter was a small baby to relieve the stay at home boredom.

•What was the inspiration behind your blog name? 3 kids and always busy 

What is the best thing to come from your blog so far? My big 3D television, meeting a few celebrities, programme launch in London and a retweet of my post by Sir Alan.

•Your most remembered thing from your childhood My brother being born

•Something interesting you might not know about me is . . . I worked as a dancer at a very famous London club, many years ago 

•Which social media platform best describes your personality and why? Twitter, I love to tweet and talk 

•What is your happy song? Too many to mention

•What is your favourite alcoholic drink Baileys 

•What is your favourite cake?  Meringue

•What is your favourite takeaway dish? Chicken jalfrezi

•Where is your dream holiday destination and why? The Galápagos Islands because they are so remote and untouched 

•What would your superhero name be? Supermummy

•What would you have on your gravestone? – I wouldn’t have one, I want to be cryogenically frozen 😝

-•You make headline news around the world in 2 years time… but for what reason? For winning the Euro millions 

If you had a magical power, would you want to have and why? Teleportation like the guy in the movie jumper so I could go anywhere I wanted 

What one weapon would help you survive a zombie apocalypse? Something that made me turn invisible 


If you could send something into space, what would it be? My ex partner maybe 


If an EMP wiped out all mechanical forms of transport, how would you get to BlogOn? A magic carpet maybe, or I’d borrow a horse from a field for a few hours and gallop there. 


#WeAreAllMums – Raising awareness! 

Published March 17, 2017 by Bizzimummy

Mother’s Day is just over a week away, whilst this brings joy and presents to many mums across the country; I and many others share mixed emotions about the day. 

Research estimates that one in six pregnancies will end in miscarriage. This alone is a very high number when you consider how many pregnancies there are. To add further sadness – approximately eleven babies are stillborn every day in the UK and there are also 60,000 premature births in the UK each year.

Tommy’s is a charity that finds research into baby loss and pregnancy problems. They are running a campaign to raise awareness that even if a baby is born sleeping or miscarried or born to soon, you are still a mum.


Many people who have been reading my blog for a while will be aware of my story, but for those who don’t here it is – 



  My Story

(Warning – contains images that may be upsetting) 

I already had two healthy children but after meeting my (now ex) partner in 2009, I became pregnant late 2010. The pregnancy was not planned but we were both happy. I found out fairly early on, around 5/6 weeks.   

A few weeks after finding out I noticed some blood in my pants, of course I panicked and straight to the hospital. Like many women so early on, I got told to go home and take it easy as there is nothing a hospital can do so early on. Luckily the blood stopped within a day or two and panic over; or so I thought. 

My 12 week scan went okay, however days later I got a call to come in. My first thoughts were Down’s syndrome but no, I was very low risk. The risk was something else. They mentioned spina bifida and mentioned the baby having heart in the wrong place but another urgent scan ruled everything out so they put it down to a false reading.

At about 14 weeks the bleeding returned and much heavier than last time but no pain. I was sure I had lost the baby but a hospital scan showed a baby alive and kicking. The doctors mentioned possible early twin loss but seemed baffled.

I had on/off spotting for the next 6 weeks and then came my 20 week scan. Again the scan was fine and I was told my baby was a girl. They did not know why I kept bleeding. I had the scan on a Monday.

Four days later on the Friday I was sat watching television and just over 21 weeks. I felt a sharp pain in my stomach and what felt like a gush of blood. I ran to the toilet but no blood, it was clear. Yes this was amniotic fluid at 21 weeks. In other words my waters had broke.

I was in tears on the way to the hospital and a scan showed very little amniotic fluid around the baby. The nurses apologised sympathetically and a doctor told me I could “abort my feutus” which I thought was an extremely awful comment. This was not a fetus, she was my baby and no way was I voluntarily killing her. I was sent home to rest with antibiotics and constant monitoring. 

The next 2 weeks consisted of bed rest and lots of bleeding and mild labour oain. It was awful not knowing and searching the internet for help or a Miracle prem baby story and praying mine would be too. Sadly this was not to be. 

On the 4th April 2011 the bleeding and pain got incredibly worse. Hospital rushed me to a labour ward with a huge team of medical people on stand by. My 2 children had been C sections but there was no time and with her being so small it was easier to push. 

Keira arrived at 3.30am weighing just 1lb 2oz she was tiny with reddish skin and a wisp of blonde hair. Her eyes were still fused shut as she was too young to open them but apart from that she was perfect in every way.

The lack of amniotic fluid along with her prematurity meant her tiny lungs were too underdeveloped. At one point it looked like she was improving but ten hours later she suffered a bleed and passed in my arms. It is the worst thing any parent should have to go through. I cannot explain the devastation it leaves when you lose a child. 

Of course I held her, washed her, cuddled her in the hours after she passed. If I’m being honest a lot of it is a blur as my head was all over the place. Walking out of that hospital without her was something that words can describe – heartbreaking, brutal, empty, I felt totally lost. I cried for weeks, often alone as I thought everyone else had moved on and somehow forgot. I wasn’t just upset, I was angry that I couldn’t save her somehow and angry that the world and people kept going yet my world had stopped. I think it’s all part of the normal grieving process. 

Despite tests I never got a reason why Keira came early. No abnormalities, no chromosome faults.

There’s not a day goes by where she isn’t in my thoughts. This April Keira would be six and instead of a kids party, I visit the cemetery which no parent should ever have to do. I still cry, I still get upset and even blame myself but I can now (sometimes) talk about her to other people and tell them that I don’t just have three children – I actually had five. 

And yes that’s correct I have five. After Keira died I became pregnant again very very quick. Unfortunately at the 20 week scan, no heartbeat was detected. I had to yet again go through another labour this time knowing the baby would not be alive. I was told my baby was about 17 weeks when he/she died. They told me they could not tell if the baby was male or female but I always thought I was carrying a boy. My poor baby had a condition called a cystic hygroma and this was totally unrelated to Keira’s death just 6 months previous. The consultant called it “unfortunate bad luck” and told me there was no reason not to try again . No bad chromosomes from any of us etc. 

In March 2012 after a missed period, yes the test said pregnant again. I panicked so much all the way through. I stood in the hospital literally screaming at the staff to give me extra scans and extra checks which they eventually agreed to. Apparently you have to lose 3 in a row before they normally do this which is a joke. 

On October 5th 2012, 2 weeks early my little girl Izebella was born and she’s now four. It’s a shame she will neve meet the other babies but she does know about them. Many people refer to babies born after loss as “rainbow babies” and Izebella certainly is my bright shining rainbow.

I feel blessed to have three children alive and well but I am still a mum to the two that didn’t make it too. 

Everyone who has been pregnant is still a mum, whether you have had a normal pregnancy, a perm birh. a rainbow baby, or an angel baby in heaven.


#WeareAllMums

https://www.tommys.org/

My daughter in NICU


My first attempt at decorating 

Published January 18, 2017 by Bizzimummy

I am probably the most anti-diy person in the world; but I have come to realize that if I really want something doing then I have to try it myself, either that or pay someone a ridiculous amount to do it for me. 

I have been wanting my hallway redone for ages as it’s not been touched at all since we moved in. I did the majority of painting before Christmas which was not too difficult and now attempting the wallpapering a bit at a time. As I have never done it before, I don’t think I’ve done too bad a job.


I purchased both the wallpaper and the paint from Graham Brown, both in the sale.

The wallpaper is paste the wall. I can’t really do a comparison to the normal paste the paper type as I’ve not used it. However from just watching others decorate this paste the wall type paper looks so much easier. No decorating table is needed, no measuring each piece and no sponging. I just pasted the wall and hung it. The hardest part for me was cutting away the excess around the edges.

I will post more pictures once the rest is done. Now I have the hang of it I may even do the rest of the house myself too. 

Oh and I highly recommend ready mixed wallpaper paste too rather than attempting to mix your own.

European foodie pals 

Published January 7, 2017 by Bizzimummy

I am now the admin of the new European foodie pals exchange group. I joined the original group a few years back and was quite sad when it finished a few months back. Therefore I have taken it upon myself with a little help from my son to form a new group. 

The group operates from Facebook and you can join here. If your not familiar with the group then here is a brief explanatuon. 

1) First head to the Facebook group as above and view the *google doc post * this will ask you to send your name and email and any blog details to myself. You can also view the form at This link if you don’t want to join the Facebook group page.

2) your details will be added to a database and each month your name will be matched with two other people.

3) one person will send you a parcel, they will email you and ask details including your address, allergies, likes, dislikes etc.

4) The other person is the one you send a parcel to. You must email this person and ask address and foodie details.

5) You send a parcel of foodie snacks and goodies and can include non food gifts too by a certain date (TBC) and you also get a foodie box too.

Sounds good doesn’t it? And as long as everyone sticks to a few rules then it usually is. I just ask that everyone sends a parcel every month and obviously respects their matched pals likes and dislikes. There is no minimum spend but I do say a maximum of £15 not including postage. Postage is also down to the parcel sender.

If your wondering what to send, then think snack items or ingredients. Obviously no fresh meats, fish or anything that could go off in transit or leak. I am also including a non food gift option too but obviously keep it small.

If you want to get involved then visit us on FACEBOOK.

Kittens at 5 weeks old 

Published December 6, 2016 by Bizzimummy

I five weeks ago my cat Daisy gave birth to four lovely kittens. She had one male and 3 females. The kittens all have new owners waiting for them once ready to go and my children mithered  me so much that I agreed to keep one,now named Pandora, so once again a new addition to the family for Christmas.

The kittens are doing well and just started on food as well as running around. 

I thought it would be nice to share some photos so you can all see just how adorable they are.


This one is the one we are keeping! 

Battling SAD (seasonal affective disorder)  once again! 

Published December 4, 2016 by Bizzimummy


So  it’s almost Christmas once again, the tree is up, presents wrapped, kids all doing shows and parties and we have a few places to go. 

At this time of year most people may be stressed with shopping and spending etc but otherwise okay and looking forward to it all. However for some people (me included) this time of year can bring something not so nice with it and that thing is Seasonal Affective Disorder or SAD for short. 
For me the symptoms begin pretty much as the clocks change and the darkness and cold rolls in and gradually start to peak. The worst month for me is usually January, and I can certainly feel it peaking already.

Symptoms of SAD can include:

a persistent low mood

a loss of pleasure or interest in normal everyday activities

irritability

feelings of despair, guilt and worthlessness

feeling lethargic (lacking in energy) and sleepy during the day

sleeping for longer than normal and finding it hard to get up in the morning

craving carbohydrates and gaining weight 

I currently have all the symptoms which seem to be getting worse. I am already on anti depressants and have been since January (when it was at its worst) so these are keeping the low mood part at bay more than normal. I am constantly falling asleep no matter how much sleep I had the night before. 

The exact causes of SAD are still unknown. It still seems to be a fairly new type of depressive disorder and was pretty unheard of when I was younger. It is still very misunderstood and even dismissed by many as being in the mind. SAD is totally different to the “Xmas/winter blues” which occurs once the Christmas festivities end. 

The exact cause of SAD is often linked to reduced exposure to sunlight during the shorter autumn and winter days.

The main theory is that a lack of sunlight might stop a part of the brain called the hypothalamus working properly, which may affect the…

production of melatonin – melatonin is a hormone that makes you feel sleepy; in people with SAD, the body may produce it in higher than normal levels

production of serotonin – serotonin is a hormone that affects your mood, appetite and sleep; a lack of sunlight may lead to lower serotonin levels, which is linked to feelings of depression

body’s internal clock (circadian rhythm) –your body uses sunlight to time various important functions, such as when you wake up, so lower light levels during the winter may disrupt your body clock and lead to symptoms of SAD.

SAD can also run in families but I’m unsure if any of my relatives also suffer. I have suffered for many years, going right back to my teenage years. It starts October, peaks around December and at its worst in January. I start feeling a little better around March so I have a feeling it may be linked to both season and clock changes.

Many people may feel stupid going to the doctor for help but trust me it’s probably the best thing I did. It took me years to work out why I always felt so bad this time of year. Treatments include medication, cognitive therapy and light therapy via special light box lamps. I am yet to try the light therapy. Lifestyle changes also help, such as spending more time outside when it is light even tho it’s cold and exercise.
I don’t think I’ll ever be cured. I don’t mean to be depressed and unhappy year after year and do try to put a brave face on. I hid it for so long because I didn’t understand it, but now that I do I can only try to manage it year after year.

If your reading this and feel the same as I do year after year then know that your not alone and please go and speak to your doctor.

Npower Superpowers campaign 

Published November 4, 2016 by Bizzimummy

In celebration of the bizarre and brilliant everyday super powers, leading energy provider npower conducted a survey to investigate what makes Brits tick. The polls show that an amazing 79% of us have a secret everyday super power, with dad dancing topping the polls for the most popular talent.

Independent survey carried out by One Poll, polling 2,000 UK parents and children aged 6-16 years old

In response to Brit’s show-stopping talents, npower wants to celebrate each and every unique super power us Brits have to offer with their new Super Powers Campaign. To launch the campaign, npower will embark on a nationwide tour with TV Presenter and family man, Peter Andre. The road show will look to encourage Brits across the country to showcase their super power at dedicated npower ‘super power’ booths for the chance of winning a home gadget package worth £25,000 to super power your home.

If you share a video of you or a family member and their super power via video then you’ll be in with a chance to win a gadget bundle worth £25,000 to super power your home.. People can also enter online by visiting http://www.familysuperpowers.com.

The roadshows will be coming to London, Manchester and Newcastle and was in Birmingham end of October. For us the closest one is Manchester and this takes place between November 11th – 13th at Manchester Arndale and you may just spot me there. Other dates and venues are..

Birmingham – Grand Central – Friday 28th to Sunday 30th Oct. 

London – Bluewater – Friday 4th to Sunday 6th November 

Newcastle – Metro centre – Friday 18th to Sunday 20th November 

Now SuperPowers don’t just need to be limited to flying or invisibility or even superhuman strength. It can be anything you want to do or be. Here is a little list to give a few ideas.

– Juggling – kitchen utensils or ingredients

– Balancing plates on arms

– Perfectly lip syncing to the latest hit

– Walking on hands

– Ventriloquist (using hand puppets)

– Splits whilst doing homework/making calls/working

– Impressions – especially to make the children laugh

– Dancing 

And before I share a few of our family superpower videos with you, I would like to share a video about this campaign featuring Peter Andre his self. 

And now for a few superpowers videos of our own featuring my two girls (Ryan did not want to do one unfortunately) 

First up is Jordanna proudly showcasing her musical talents on stage with a pretty well known children’s celebrity.

Did I mention Jordanna can also sing in front of hundreds. Bottom row second left. This girl is full of super duper talents.

Jordanna has so many SuperPower talents that she even helps out as a magicians assistant too.


And of course little sister Izebella wants to be just as talented with superpowers as big sister and is quickly catching up with her dancing by herself. 

So there you go and I’m sure my super girls are exhausted after their superpower talents, and now it’s your turn. Get down to a roadshows and don’t forget to upload those videos to Npower family superpowers.

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