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JYSK happiness survey results 

Published October 27, 2017 by Bizzimummy

I received a lot of answers as part of my JYSK happiness question in my recent competition. My answers along with the answers from other bloggers taking part have all been published into a survey. 

The UK seems to be happiest cuddling pets on the sofa in a clean and tidy home with all of their favourite people and things in one place – and wearing pyjamas while we’re cuddling, makes the happiness complete. We seem to be a nation of regular cat and dog snugglers – and yes, they are allowed on the sofa. (But not in my house) 
Playing with the kids also hits the top of the happiness at home table just above a love of our own beds, clean sheets and very  rare moments of ‘me time, once the kids have gone to bed. (This one I do agree with) 
JYSK’s ‘Feel the Happiness’ Report, also states that the majority of us are utterly devoted pyjama-wearers. Our homes may be our castles but we are at our happiest at home after donning fleecy night attire, comfy slippers and wrapping ourselves in a cuddly throw.  

However Britain is far from the happiest place on Earth, ranking only 23rd place in 2017. Year on year Scandinavian countries dominate the top of the table for the world’s happiest nations. They put it down to a combination of things; one of them is Hygge.  
 2017 World Happiness League Table 2013-15 World Happiness League Table

1.​Norway 1. Denmark

2.​Denmark 2. Switzerland
3.​Iceland 3. Iceland
4.​Switzerland 4. Norway
5.​Finland 5. Finland
19. UK 23. UK
The new JYSK survey, which asked 30,000 followers of popular home and family bloggers about what makes them feel the happiness at home found that fairy lights, candles, softer accent lighting and real fires are important contributors to creating a relaxing environment. Just like our Scandinavian cousins, we are looking at lighting; greater use of natural and softer materials and appreciating time spent interacting with loved ones.  
Other Hygge happiness triggers include someone else – usually a partner – preparing dinner and sharing a glass of wine or a warming hot drink on a squishy sofa under a cuddly throw. Family activities such as movie nights in were also highlighted as activities that see people happiest at home.

And of course, the soft furnishings, throws, cushions and slippers were also important but having a clean and tidy home with plenty of well-thought out storage and was the number one contentment generator – as it sets the perfect environment to relax.  

Here is the British top 20 results for what makes us happiest at home.
1.​Clean and tidy house – everything in its place​

2.​Favourite people and things all in one place​
3.​Pets – snuggling with cat/dog on the sofa​
4.​Playing with the kids​
5.​Our own bed with clean sheets and particularly when it’s raining outside​
6.​‘Me time’ after kids’ bedtime​
7.​Fairy lights and candles/soft lighting/natural lighting​
8.​Darker nights making it cosier inside, snuggling on sofa with throws & cushions​
9.​A real fire​
10.​Grandchildren over for games & cuddles​
11.​Partner cooking dinner​
12.​Pyjamas/bedtime​
13.​Night in DVD, family , chocolate​
14.​Home cooking/smell of​
15.​Sofa, throws, cushions, family​
16.​Reading in a comfortable armchair​
17.​Cuddling on sofa​
18.​Family and friends meals/relaxing​
19.​Pyjama TV box set ‘binge’
20.​Time with pets and kids​

​Other Hygge happiness hits included one of my favourites – which is  long bubble baths in a clean and tidy bathroom. And also  uninterrupted time, hanging out the washing, baking and sofa naps.

Also popular were cotton sheets, lavender scented pillows, old Christmas movies, crocheting and cuddling pet guinea pigs at dusk.
Family photos and children’s artwork generate smiles and happy memories, Scandi style is growing in popularity thanks to its calming neutrals and natural materials and there is a marked trend in people including unique furniture pieces that draw the eye. All of these things make our homes our own and contribute to our wellbeing.

Some of the simplest things make people happy at home – when the baby is finally asleep, enjoying a crumpet (in pyjamas), creating a reading corner in the sitting room, the teenagers being out of the house and no technology interruptions for example.
Others are at their happiest and most relaxed in front of the computer, having a ticked off ‘to do’ list, watching garden birds from a cosy chair or finally achieving possession of the remote control.
Watching fish in the aquarium, finding a rare space on the sofa ‘in a house full of hounds’ and home-birds that are happy as soon as they get through the front door also featured.
Wardrobes and storage generally were seen as significant mood lifters, particularly for struggling born minimalists sharing their home with a hectic young family.
Playing the ukulele and ‘the three teddies that live on my bed’ also got a mention from individuals describing their ultimate happy time at home.

The 2017 world happiness report showed Norway, Denmark and Iceland in the first, second and third places. Finland and the Netherlands were in fifth and sixth (after Switzerland in fourth). The UK is at number 19, rising from number 23 – JYSK, which now has 15 stores here, was interested to note that the rise of happiness at home is mostly attributed to the Hygge elements beloved and enjoyed in Scandinavia. To find out more about Hygge and Scandi style visit http://www.JYSK.co.uk.

*JYSK analysed a sample of 1,000 taken from an engagement of 30,000 around its Feel the Happiness initiative. The sample is from across the UK’s nations and regions, collected from followers of leading home and family bloggers.
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My little Pony twitter party 

Published October 6, 2017 by Bizzimummy

We will shortly be hosting our own twitter family via the Family loop. Our party will be themed around My Little Pony. Dates will follow soon! 


If you can’t wait that long for ours the worry not as there is a party you can join in with this coming Monday (9th October). 1-2pm on Twitter #MyLittlePony, @thefamilyloop –  all about friendship and lots of giveaways. 

The Elephant in the room! Living with a speech disorder! 

Published September 27, 2017 by Bizzimummy

Today I want to share something personal. It’s the elephant in the room that no one wants to mention but happily talks behind my back about. The thing that let me down as a child, the thing that lets me down in job interviews. It’s the elephant in the room. 

And no not that guy. 

It’s my speech disorder, my lisp, the thing that makes my S sounds come out differently to others.

Yes it bothers me, yes it knocks my confidence but I now feel it’s time to talk about it as I’m not the only one suffering with a speech impediment. It’s on the same level as a stammer or stutter. We get laughed like kids in the playground, yet would the same people laughing also laugh at a wheelchair user? No of course not because that’s wrong. Well so is laughing or judging someone on speech.

I was clever at school, finished with a A in performing arts followed by B and C grades for the rest of the subjects including Maths and English and have also completed Lang high level computer courses.

Yes my parents put me though months of speech therapy but for some reason it just did not work. I have no idea if this is available to adults too

Working as a dancer in my younger days was easy, of course I didn’t need to speak. But getting other jobs isn’t as easy. Who is going to employ someone in customer service if you don’t talk the same as others? 

I want to share my video, so next time you see me if you know me, please think before you judge somebody. 

My new tattoo

Published September 13, 2017 by Bizzimummy

I just had to share this. I had this done early today. I absolutely love it. 

It’s on my upper back and for the symbolic meanings please google pentagram and all seeing eye. 


Stefs tattoo & body piercing  Bolton

I’m going to Blog On Icebreaker linky 

Published May 18, 2017 by Bizzimummy

This Sunday I will be travelling to Manchester to attend the Blog On Msi 2017 conference where I will be meeting lots of brands and lots of bloggers. So that people get to know a bit about me, I’m taking part in the icebreaker linky challenge.

Here are my answers!

• Share a recent picture of you (if you are an anonymous blog, a drawing is fine)

• Describe yourself in three words

Caring, friendly, fun


•How long have you been blogging and what made you start? 4 years and 1 month. I started when my daughter was a small baby to relieve the stay at home boredom.

•What was the inspiration behind your blog name? 3 kids and always busy 

What is the best thing to come from your blog so far? My big 3D television, meeting a few celebrities, programme launch in London and a retweet of my post by Sir Alan.

•Your most remembered thing from your childhood My brother being born

•Something interesting you might not know about me is . . . I worked as a dancer at a very famous London club, many years ago 

•Which social media platform best describes your personality and why? Twitter, I love to tweet and talk 

•What is your happy song? Too many to mention

•What is your favourite alcoholic drink Baileys 

•What is your favourite cake?  Meringue

•What is your favourite takeaway dish? Chicken jalfrezi

•Where is your dream holiday destination and why? The Galápagos Islands because they are so remote and untouched 

•What would your superhero name be? Supermummy

•What would you have on your gravestone? – I wouldn’t have one, I want to be cryogenically frozen 😝

-•You make headline news around the world in 2 years time… but for what reason? For winning the Euro millions 

If you had a magical power, would you want to have and why? Teleportation like the guy in the movie jumper so I could go anywhere I wanted 

What one weapon would help you survive a zombie apocalypse? Something that made me turn invisible 


If you could send something into space, what would it be? My ex partner maybe 


If an EMP wiped out all mechanical forms of transport, how would you get to BlogOn? A magic carpet maybe, or I’d borrow a horse from a field for a few hours and gallop there. 


#WeAreAllMums – Raising awareness! 

Published March 17, 2017 by Bizzimummy

Mother’s Day is just over a week away, whilst this brings joy and presents to many mums across the country; I and many others share mixed emotions about the day. 

Research estimates that one in six pregnancies will end in miscarriage. This alone is a very high number when you consider how many pregnancies there are. To add further sadness – approximately eleven babies are stillborn every day in the UK and there are also 60,000 premature births in the UK each year.

Tommy’s is a charity that finds research into baby loss and pregnancy problems. They are running a campaign to raise awareness that even if a baby is born sleeping or miscarried or born to soon, you are still a mum.


Many people who have been reading my blog for a while will be aware of my story, but for those who don’t here it is – 



  My Story

(Warning – contains images that may be upsetting) 

I already had two healthy children but after meeting my (now ex) partner in 2009, I became pregnant late 2010. The pregnancy was not planned but we were both happy. I found out fairly early on, around 5/6 weeks.   

A few weeks after finding out I noticed some blood in my pants, of course I panicked and straight to the hospital. Like many women so early on, I got told to go home and take it easy as there is nothing a hospital can do so early on. Luckily the blood stopped within a day or two and panic over; or so I thought. 

My 12 week scan went okay, however days later I got a call to come in. My first thoughts were Down’s syndrome but no, I was very low risk. The risk was something else. They mentioned spina bifida and mentioned the baby having heart in the wrong place but another urgent scan ruled everything out so they put it down to a false reading.

At about 14 weeks the bleeding returned and much heavier than last time but no pain. I was sure I had lost the baby but a hospital scan showed a baby alive and kicking. The doctors mentioned possible early twin loss but seemed baffled.

I had on/off spotting for the next 6 weeks and then came my 20 week scan. Again the scan was fine and I was told my baby was a girl. They did not know why I kept bleeding. I had the scan on a Monday.

Four days later on the Friday I was sat watching television and just over 21 weeks. I felt a sharp pain in my stomach and what felt like a gush of blood. I ran to the toilet but no blood, it was clear. Yes this was amniotic fluid at 21 weeks. In other words my waters had broke.

I was in tears on the way to the hospital and a scan showed very little amniotic fluid around the baby. The nurses apologised sympathetically and a doctor told me I could “abort my feutus” which I thought was an extremely awful comment. This was not a fetus, she was my baby and no way was I voluntarily killing her. I was sent home to rest with antibiotics and constant monitoring. 

The next 2 weeks consisted of bed rest and lots of bleeding and mild labour oain. It was awful not knowing and searching the internet for help or a Miracle prem baby story and praying mine would be too. Sadly this was not to be. 

On the 4th April 2011 the bleeding and pain got incredibly worse. Hospital rushed me to a labour ward with a huge team of medical people on stand by. My 2 children had been C sections but there was no time and with her being so small it was easier to push. 

Keira arrived at 3.30am weighing just 1lb 2oz she was tiny with reddish skin and a wisp of blonde hair. Her eyes were still fused shut as she was too young to open them but apart from that she was perfect in every way.

The lack of amniotic fluid along with her prematurity meant her tiny lungs were too underdeveloped. At one point it looked like she was improving but ten hours later she suffered a bleed and passed in my arms. It is the worst thing any parent should have to go through. I cannot explain the devastation it leaves when you lose a child. 

Of course I held her, washed her, cuddled her in the hours after she passed. If I’m being honest a lot of it is a blur as my head was all over the place. Walking out of that hospital without her was something that words can describe – heartbreaking, brutal, empty, I felt totally lost. I cried for weeks, often alone as I thought everyone else had moved on and somehow forgot. I wasn’t just upset, I was angry that I couldn’t save her somehow and angry that the world and people kept going yet my world had stopped. I think it’s all part of the normal grieving process. 

Despite tests I never got a reason why Keira came early. No abnormalities, no chromosome faults.

There’s not a day goes by where she isn’t in my thoughts. This April Keira would be six and instead of a kids party, I visit the cemetery which no parent should ever have to do. I still cry, I still get upset and even blame myself but I can now (sometimes) talk about her to other people and tell them that I don’t just have three children – I actually had five. 

And yes that’s correct I have five. After Keira died I became pregnant again very very quick. Unfortunately at the 20 week scan, no heartbeat was detected. I had to yet again go through another labour this time knowing the baby would not be alive. I was told my baby was about 17 weeks when he/she died. They told me they could not tell if the baby was male or female but I always thought I was carrying a boy. My poor baby had a condition called a cystic hygroma and this was totally unrelated to Keira’s death just 6 months previous. The consultant called it “unfortunate bad luck” and told me there was no reason not to try again . No bad chromosomes from any of us etc. 

In March 2012 after a missed period, yes the test said pregnant again. I panicked so much all the way through. I stood in the hospital literally screaming at the staff to give me extra scans and extra checks which they eventually agreed to. Apparently you have to lose 3 in a row before they normally do this which is a joke. 

On October 5th 2012, 2 weeks early my little girl Izebella was born and she’s now four. It’s a shame she will neve meet the other babies but she does know about them. Many people refer to babies born after loss as “rainbow babies” and Izebella certainly is my bright shining rainbow.

I feel blessed to have three children alive and well but I am still a mum to the two that didn’t make it too. 

Everyone who has been pregnant is still a mum, whether you have had a normal pregnancy, a perm birh. a rainbow baby, or an angel baby in heaven.


#WeareAllMums

https://www.tommys.org/

My daughter in NICU


My first attempt at decorating 

Published January 18, 2017 by Bizzimummy

I am probably the most anti-diy person in the world; but I have come to realize that if I really want something doing then I have to try it myself, either that or pay someone a ridiculous amount to do it for me. 

I have been wanting my hallway redone for ages as it’s not been touched at all since we moved in. I did the majority of painting before Christmas which was not too difficult and now attempting the wallpapering a bit at a time. As I have never done it before, I don’t think I’ve done too bad a job.


I purchased both the wallpaper and the paint from Graham Brown, both in the sale.

The wallpaper is paste the wall. I can’t really do a comparison to the normal paste the paper type as I’ve not used it. However from just watching others decorate this paste the wall type paper looks so much easier. No decorating table is needed, no measuring each piece and no sponging. I just pasted the wall and hung it. The hardest part for me was cutting away the excess around the edges.

I will post more pictures once the rest is done. Now I have the hang of it I may even do the rest of the house myself too. 

Oh and I highly recommend ready mixed wallpaper paste too rather than attempting to mix your own.

European foodie pals 

Published January 7, 2017 by Bizzimummy

I am now the admin of the new European foodie pals exchange group. I joined the original group a few years back and was quite sad when it finished a few months back. Therefore I have taken it upon myself with a little help from my son to form a new group. 

The group operates from Facebook and you can join here. If your not familiar with the group then here is a brief explanatuon. 

1) First head to the Facebook group as above and view the *google doc post * this will ask you to send your name and email and any blog details to myself. You can also view the form at This link if you don’t want to join the Facebook group page.

2) your details will be added to a database and each month your name will be matched with two other people.

3) one person will send you a parcel, they will email you and ask details including your address, allergies, likes, dislikes etc.

4) The other person is the one you send a parcel to. You must email this person and ask address and foodie details.

5) You send a parcel of foodie snacks and goodies and can include non food gifts too by a certain date (TBC) and you also get a foodie box too.

Sounds good doesn’t it? And as long as everyone sticks to a few rules then it usually is. I just ask that everyone sends a parcel every month and obviously respects their matched pals likes and dislikes. There is no minimum spend but I do say a maximum of £15 not including postage. Postage is also down to the parcel sender.

If your wondering what to send, then think snack items or ingredients. Obviously no fresh meats, fish or anything that could go off in transit or leak. I am also including a non food gift option too but obviously keep it small.

If you want to get involved then visit us on FACEBOOK.

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